kosmogrl:

ledeadface:

kiricat:

95wonder:

skunkes:

No. I know this is probably just a casual commiseration but I think it’s a real and important question to ask and answer. If doing the stuff you’re expected to do everyday is super hard, then something is probably wrong.

Anyone who relates to this too hard, I’d recommend looking up spoon theory and starting to make a record of how you feel and your experiences that you can bring up with some kind of health professional. Chances are if doing laundry feels like climbing everest, it’s because you’re disabled in some way. Whether that disability is some invisible chronic illness or depression or ADHD or burnout, *something* is wrong.

Almost all disabilities have some form of treatment or accommodation that can make your life easier. If you can get a diagnosis, you might also be eligible for official accommodations and benefits. Social security sucks ass and is almost impossible to access but like, it’s not the only thing out there set up to help disabled folks and usually local organizations are gonna be better anyway.

Plenty of people reblogging this probably already know they’re disabled in some way but if even 1 person sees this and can learn something important about themselves then it’s worth saying.

TLDR: people who aren’t disabled don’t find acts of daily living extremely hard. Maybe look into that and see if you can get help making your life less hard.

Sincerely, a multiply disabled person.

This is super important okay. Like, I used to try to ask my conservative family/church/etc. for help, and they’d just be all, “suck it up; life is hard for everyone; quit being such a baby”… and then I went to, like, actual experts, and they were basically like, “um, wow, you’re clearly super depressed and suicidal; you should actually be proud of yourself for still being alive!” And I’m still trying to unlearn the former and accept the latter, even after all this time. And I’m so mad that I’ve wasted so much time just trying to “push through it” instead of getting help I clearly need(ed), and that’s still a thing I struggle with.

Please, please seek real help if you need it. Like, I understand that there are shitty doctors and shitty therapists and whatnot, but it’s so worth expending what effort you can to find good ones who can help. If you have mentally ill friends – which, if you’re reading this in the first place, you almost certainly do – they might be able to point you in the right direction.

[ID: a screenshot from the Too Afraid to Ask reddit that reads: “How do people just so stuff? Is life not incredibly hard for everyone?” /end ID]

marywollstonecraft:

eau-de-poussey:

our-bi-space:

Red flags for bi women dating men

1. He asks for graphic details of your past sexual experiences
2. He asks you to compare him to the women you’ve been with
3. He asks you for a threesome
4. He asks you not to mention your bisexuality because it makes him feel insecure
5. He is okay with you having guy friends but not girl friends
6. He is okay with you having girl friends but not guy friends
7. He watches bisexual porn
8. He talks about how he’s “turned” you
9. He threatens to out you to friends and family
10. He accuses you of cheating (with no evidence except for the fact that you’re bi)

Please, stay safe. We are in a unique position that makes us more vulnerable than we think. Keep watch, make note of red flags and gut instinct, and create a safety plan just in case.

this is so so so important. also i would add:

1. pressuring you to check out other women with him
2. forcing you to do things with other women/girls in front of him and/or his friends

these things seem incredibly obvious as to being Bad and Predatory but it’s coming from personal experience. i was a dumb, naive teenager and the guy was not only my first boyfriend but the first person i came out to. it really messed with my understanding and perception of my own bisexuality.

don’t put up with this kind of behavior. you deserve a partner who sees you as a whole person and not just a vehicle to bring their most twisted sexual fantasies to life. bi women are not a fetish.

Just adding on to that last point about fetishization:

1. Reacting with unusual enthusiasm / excitement when you tell him you’re bi 
2. Saying he prefers to date bi women
3. Suggesting new sexual things “to try out” after you tell him you’re bi (doesn’t have to be immediately after)
4. Suggesting to open the relationship, saying he “doesn’t mind” if you do stuff with women - besides diminishing your attraction to women, it’s also an attempt to groom you into a threesome
5. Reacting negatively if you tell him you prefer women or have mostly dated women

quecksilvereyes:

homosexual-having-tea:

You ever think about how unified humanity is by just everyday experiences? Tudor peasants had hangnails, nobles in the Qin dynasty had favorite foods, workers in the 1700s liked seeing flowers growing in pavement cracks, a cook in medieval Iran teared up cutting onions, a mom in 1300 told her son not to get grass stains on his clothes, some girl in the past loved staying up late to see the sun rise.

there are scriptures all over the world painstakingly crafted hundreds of years ago with paw prints and spelling mistakes or drawings covering up mistakes. a bunch of teenage girls 2000 years ago gathered to walk around their hometown, getting fast food and laughing with their friends. two friends shared blankets before people lived in houses. a mother ran a fine comb through her child’s hair and told it to stop squirming sometime in the 1000s. there are covered up sewing mistakes in couture dresses from the 1800s, some poor roman burnt their food so well past recognition that they just buried the entire pot. there are broken dishes hidden in gardens of people no one even remembers anymore

odinsblog:

mysharona1987:

Guess that threat against Ann Wagner and her thirsty husband worked?

badgraph1csghost:

badgraph1csghost:

whisky-gerblin:

asortoflight:

themodernsouthernpolytheist:

xakumi:

hydro-punk:

rox-and-prose:

yay855:

sisterofiris:

Hey students, here’s a pro tip: do not write an email to your prof while you’re seriously sick.

Signed, a person who somehow came up with “dear hello, I am sick and not sure if I’ll be alive to come tomorrow and I’m sorry, best slutantions, [name]”.

I mean, if someone wrote that to me, I’d probably believe they were sick.

“Slutantions” has me crying laughing

i once emailed my professor with a migraine. a mistake.

“I amsick will not to choir because i have a heache. i Hope its very and i am so sorry

love,

blue”

the subject line was “OW”

THE SUBJECT LINE IS THE BEST PART JSJFJSJDJS JUST IMAGINE GETTING AN EMAIL WITH NO CONTEXT OTHER THAN “OW”

As someone who has taught college, please send those emails because 1) We WILL believe that; no one would write that on purpose and 2) we need a laugh sometimes.

On the other side of this, once after getting taken to the ER by ambulance, I got an email from the professor whose class I’d passed out in, and the message had no text, just the subject line “you good?”

Reblogging for the last addition

Claritin makes me weird, but I have allergies so there’s about a month and a half block of time where I’m taking Claritin and am just weird most of the time.

Anyway, my last year of college, I got the flu or something in late March and was also taking Mucinex. I told my professor I couldn’t come to class one day by email except I couldnt think of what to say, so my medicated ass decided to make a Fry meme. I think it said something like “Not sure if I can go to class with a head the size of Texas, bottom text.” I didn’t think until the next day that it probably wasn’t socially-acceptable to tell your philosophy professor you weren’t coming to class via Tumblr style memes. When i got back to class, i found that she’d printed it out and taped it to the classroom bulletin board.

Oh shit you guys i turned on my WinXP laptop that I used to use back then.

IT WAS ON THE DESKTOP. THIS IS WHAT I SENT.

It’s even worse than i remember it

ftgloss: